Resilience in Family Dynamics
In this episode of So, Mom…, Adele and I delve into the complex and often turbulent figure of her father, Bob. He was a man of grand gestures and unfulfilled promises, whose charm could make you believe anything. I share stories of our early years together—how he dazzled me as a young college student with his star power, only for that shine to dim as the reality of his unreliability became clearer.
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Summary of Episode 3
We talk about how his presence, or often lack thereof, impacted our family dynamics, and how we all learned to adapt and build strength despite his unpredictable nature. Adele reflects on her own experiences as a child, often left waiting at school or wandering alone after being dropped off, and how we both had to find ways to create stability in the midst of chaos. As I recall, “There was always a well-curated story about what had happened, and it always sounded as though you had been doing this with him, that he was present.”
One of the hardest parts was how Bob could always spin a story, making you feel responsible for his decisions. “He could make you feel you were responsible for making him feel better about a decision he made.” It was this charm that often left us holding onto hope, even when deep down we knew better.
This episode is an exploration of resilience—how we grew stronger as individuals and as a family by navigating the unpredictability that Bob brought into our family dynamics. It’s about learning when to let go, finding your own footing, and, ultimately, building a life where you no longer depend on the people who couldn’t be there for you.
We hope this conversation resonates with listeners who’ve faced similar challenges in their own family dynamics, and serves as a reminder that even in the most difficult situations, you can find your own strength and create a life of stability and purpose.
“There was always a well-curated story about what had happened, and it always sounded as though you had been doing this with him, that he was present.”
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If you’ve ever faced challenges with family dynamics or are simply curious about how others navigate the complexities of family life, we invite you to listen to So, Mom…. Join Adele and me as we share our personal stories, reflections, and lessons learned from our own experiences. Subscribe to Apple Podcast or Spotify for more candid conversations on resilience, parenting, and building connections through life’s toughest moments.
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